Bringing all your associations about someone to your relationship with them, you dilute the relationship. To avoid that, you have to first come to the relationship to yourself. Become present, and then relate to the other person.
This way, you don't try to fix the problems in your relationship to them. You fix those problems in yourself, by being present. The reality of the other person exists within yourself. When you are present, you see you have nothing against them.
Your effort to become present is your highest gift to the Earth. The whole universe is supported by it, because everything is interrelated and interconnected.
~Jon Schreiber, "Child of Existence, Child of Society", teachings of Breema
If you could see where your real wishes come from, you would understand that you already have what you wish for. Those wishes are the emanation of your Being, You already ARE and then there is a wish. If you truly wish to understand, understanding is already there. Your direction is to bring it to the physical dimenstion--to your mind, body, and feelings--to do what is needed in order for that understanding to manifest in your life.
The real already exists. The oak trees already exists within the acorn. But you have to give it the right conditions, by planting it in the soil, watering it, making sure it gets sunlight. Then it can sprout and grow into a mighty tree.
You are just like that tree. You existed before your body formed. But because we relate only to the apparent, to the manifested, we take ourselves to be separate. We don't know our unity with the Absolute.
If you had everything, what would you wish for? In unity with the Source, your essential wish is already fulfilled. One thing is undeniable--the fact that you exist. But even if you know it, you remember it only for a moment here, a moment there. In between those moments, you still exist. Where you're lost in thoughts, you exist, but your thoughts don't let you see that. It's as though you're looking at the back of a mirror, and can't see yourself.
Now let's say you turn the mirror the other way, so you can see your reflection. And you ask a question. YOU are asking, not your image, not your reflection. YOU are manifesting, not the manifestation you identify with as you.
What can you do to be more connected to the truth? The answer--don't forget the body. Bringing your mind to your body brings you from the passive state to the active state. When you move your arm, and you KNOW it is moving, body and mind are connected. Then your desires are different. Your questions are different. You are more connected to your real wish. And from the active state you have a chance to come to the receptive state--body, mind, and feelings are together. That is the direction for your entire life.
~Jon Schreiber, "Child of Existence, Child of Society", teachings of Breema and living a harmonious life.